Basically, while a simple remark calls for basic comprehension, sarcastic remarks need multiple levels of comprehension. The recipient should be aware of the experiences, viewpoints, and biases of the speaker, and then assimilate such information into the analysis of whatever is being said. More to these, since these kinds of remarks are associated with beliefs or social norms, they tend to stick with us longer and we can relate more.
To listen (to the trees) we need to give them our full attention.
“All things, animate and inanimate, have within them a spirit dimension. They communicate in that dimension to those who can listen.” ~ Jerome Bernstein, Jungian analyst
Right out in front of my house here on Whidbey Island stands a Western Redcedar tree that is nearly 300 years old. It’s exactly 4 feet three inches in diameter five feet up from the base (I’ve actually measured it), and it stands about 130 feet high (I used this old Boy Scout method to measure the height). Even though this Redcedar is an evergreen tree, every year at this time, it drops thousands of tiny golden needles on the ground. They make a soft snowfall-like carpet all around the base. I call my cedar tree Watty (after the character, Watty White on the Nashville TV drama, mostly because I like the way the name sounds). Watty and I have regular sessions together when…
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Medical professionals say that ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) is one of the most common behavioral disorders that begin at childhood, but it does not only affect children. People of all ages could have ADHD. Psychiatrists say ADHD is a neurobehavioral developmental disorder.
Laughing lowers stress hormones and boosts the immune system by releasing health-enhancing hormones.
The stress hormone cortisol does not only cause abdominal fat to accumulate, but it also blows up individual fat cells, causing what scientists call “diseased” fat.
Stress is associated with the six leading causes of death: heart disease, cancer, lung ailments, accidents, liver cirrhosis, as well as suicide.
Do you happen to notice something different in your child that’s out of the ordinary? Have you ticked off some in this checklist? You child might be suffering from depression. Act on it as soon as you can.
Know what Hysteria is all about
A description of women afflicted with nervous hysteria, from an 1883 book about psychological medicine:
“The patient, when hysterical feelings come upon her, does not feel disposed to make the slightest effort to resist them, and yields to her emotions, whatever they may be. She will laugh or cry on the slightest provocation, and is very nervous and excitable. She cares nothing for her duties and seemingly takes pleasure in exaggerating all her slight discomforts and annoyances, and by her suspicious, exacting and unreasonable behavior makes life generally uncomfortable to those around her. She indignantly resents all attempts and efforts for her comfort and cure, and discards all advice from her best friends, but will eagerly listen to the counsel of the many friends who come in to pity, sympathize and condole with her.”
Is anxiety disorder something we develop over the years, or is it hard-wired into our brains? According to a Jerome Kagan, a highly renowned behavioral scientist, there is good evidence suggesting that for some of us there are biological factors at play. In a famous study that is explained in detail here, the researcher followed a group of babies from the time their were born until their adult age.
With the aim of understanding the complex manifestations of human temperament, Kagan choose to study the reaction of babies to new things… smells, sights, all kinds of stimuli. A few of the hundreds of babies he analyzed showed a notable uneasiness around any unfamiliar settings, and the author postulated that such infants would be likely to develop inhibited temperament and chronic anxiousness throughout their life. Fifteen years later, while interview one of such particular babies (then a teenager), Kagan’s suspicions were confirmed – that some of us are just born with a predisposition to anxiety. Here’s a quote from the interview, where the interviewee claims:
“When I don’t quite know what to do and it’s really frustrating and I feel really uncomfortable, especially if other people around me know what they’re doing. I’m always thinking, Should I go here? Should I go there? Am I in someone’s way? … I worry about things like getting projects done… I think, Will I get it done? How am I going to do it? … If I’m going to be in a big crowd, it makes me nervous about what I’m going to do and say and what other people are going to do and say.”
Does that sound familiar? If you’ve been struggling with panic attacks, you may recognize the reasoning above as something you’ve experienced and grown woefully familiar with. Well, the point here is two-fold: for one, to make you realize there are many others who have just the same experience as you. Second, you should know that even though some children are genetically prone towards anxiety, it does not mean they’ll definitely develop this problem when they grow older.
It just means that such children must be consistently supported during their growth, to reduce the chances of having anxiety problems later in their life. If you suffer from anxiety problems, or if you have suffered in the past, and you’re now a parent… this is something you should watch for in your children; remember, provided your support and guidance, your kids won’t have to endure the same problems as you’ve had. Why not open up to your kids and tell them honestly about your problems with anxiety? You may be surprised to realize that not only do they understand your feelings of doom, but they can relate to them to some extent.